Oct 16Liked by Alberto Cabas Vidani, Benjamin Antoine
This is great advice. I think I’ve definitely misaligned conscious and unconscious goals. I think in some ways I’m even struggling to quite clearly define my unconscious goals.
How do you think one best goes about fully grasping unconscious goals?
But if you’ve chosen a goal like “I want to be a published author” that has to sit above all the others.
So you have to be ok with being a failure to your parents…or have the whole world laugh at your silly book.
These things are not to be underestimated. The psychological immune system is literally trying to protect you from making those kind of mistakes and if you are not aware of it the goal of “not disappointing your parents” sits high above that of becoming a published author…which means you will never get there unless you are brutally honest with yourself.
Oct 16Liked by Benjamin Antoine, Alberto Cabas Vidani
Great article Ben! I appreciate your honesty and insight. I think you can be both a creator and a entrepreneur, but you have to choose which one you want to prioritize. There is no shame in monetizing your craft or in creating with no intent to monetize. But you have to be upfront with your audience about it. And always stay authentic to yourself and what you really want - people can tell right away if you're not.
Thanks Charlie. Yes I don’t think there is necessarily a right or wrong way you just have to be very clear on what it is that you want. Being stuck in the middle is the worst
Thank you for having me Alberto. I appreciate it 😀
Thanks for sending it and accepting my revisions
This is great advice. I think I’ve definitely misaligned conscious and unconscious goals. I think in some ways I’m even struggling to quite clearly define my unconscious goals.
How do you think one best goes about fully grasping unconscious goals?
You have to be brutally honest with yourself.
I think most of us have unconscious goals like:
“I don’t want to look stupid”
“I want to be popular”
“I don’t want to disappoint my parents”…
But if you’ve chosen a goal like “I want to be a published author” that has to sit above all the others.
So you have to be ok with being a failure to your parents…or have the whole world laugh at your silly book.
These things are not to be underestimated. The psychological immune system is literally trying to protect you from making those kind of mistakes and if you are not aware of it the goal of “not disappointing your parents” sits high above that of becoming a published author…which means you will never get there unless you are brutally honest with yourself.
Great article Ben! I appreciate your honesty and insight. I think you can be both a creator and a entrepreneur, but you have to choose which one you want to prioritize. There is no shame in monetizing your craft or in creating with no intent to monetize. But you have to be upfront with your audience about it. And always stay authentic to yourself and what you really want - people can tell right away if you're not.
Yes, and you have to be clear with yourself in the first place.
Self-awareness is key
Thanks Charlie. Yes I don’t think there is necessarily a right or wrong way you just have to be very clear on what it is that you want. Being stuck in the middle is the worst
Sage advice